What game are you playing?

What game are you playing?

Each moment of life can be seen as a game in which we actively participate. Most often, I play the woman who works, who calls those she loves, who packs her bags, and goes on a trip. Sometimes, I also play the woman who judges herself harshly, who tells herself she's not doing enough, who questions her decisions. I play this game until I wake up and take my power back.

And what about you? What game do you play most often?

In every situation, we can choose to play the game of love and joy, or we can choose to play the game of doubt and fear.

Does it not seem like a choice to you?

That's normal. Because the game of doubt and fear is not just a simple game; it's a trap.

As soon as we experience negative emotions (such as doubt or fear), we lose part of our awareness. We lose access to our full wisdom and the best answers we can give ourselves. We distance ourselves from our power by making ourselves believe the following: "I, or those I love, will not be able to face a situation or its consequences."

Yet it's fear itself that prevents us from being capable. It's by adhering to this lie that we alter our self-confidence and get ourselves into trouble. We take away our power and prevent ourselves from making another choice, like the choice of love and joy.

When you realize that you are playing the game of doubt and fear, and have understood the mechanism, there's no more effort to be made, not even courage. You are "awake".

So, what can you do? 

To "wake up", you need to observe yourself and spot the signs that you are playing the game of doubt and fear.

How are you behaving? Are you sleeping less? Are you eating more or less than usual? Are you saying "I don't know" more often?

By becoming the observer, you will become more aware of what's going on and remind yourself that another choice is possible.

At every moment, you have the choice of which game you play.

You can choose to complain about a situation, or you can choose to use that situation to ask yourself, "How can this situation serve me?"

Who do you want to be in this situation?

Do you choose to play the role of victim or hero?

Victim: Doubt and Fear
Hero: Love and Joy

To facilitate the transition from one game to another, you can:

• Make a list of activities and roles that bring you joy, and integrate these activities or roles into your daily routine. Keep this list handy.
• List your past achievements. Remind your brain of what you are capable of. Our ability to forget is phenomenal!
• Ask yourself what you have inside you that makes you feel good. What can you rely on that is within you and that no one can take away from you, regardless of the circumstances (e.g., your creativity, your sense of humor, your values...).  

You have the power to choose your game and transform your life and the lives of those around you.

So, what do you want to play today? 

Stephanie Romeo