What if problems didn't exist?

There's never a problem. There are only situations.

It’s fear that turns a situation into a "problem."

It’s fear—the fear of not succeeding, of not being loved, of lacking resources, or of losing someone or something—that creates the problem.

It's fear that transforms a situation into a “problem” that's more persistent, more complex, more difficult to solve, because fear prevents us from accessing all available resources: our own and those of others. 

For example, fear might stop you from asking for help from someone who would be happy to help you. It can also lead you to make a request in an awkward way, pushing away the support you could receive. Fear can even keep you from taking action when you already have the necessary resources. And it can rob you of precious moments with those you love. 

• Fear closes doors.
• Trust opens them.
• Fear says the problems are real.
• Trust says the problems are just illusions.

 "Without fear come all the solutions to problems that, in reality, don't exist."

Here’s what trust recommends:

1. Look at the situation as it is.
2. Describe it factually, without adding any labels.
3. Ask yourself: What’s within my control? “Nothing” is not an acceptable answer.
4. Then ask yourself: What’s the best thing I can do in this situation? This question will give you back your power, even if the BEST thing you can do is "nothing." 

PRACTICAL EXERCISE

Now, if you can, sit up straight, open your chest, widen your shoulders, and relax them. Take a deep breath, hold for half a second, breathe in a little more, then slowly exhale all the air through your mouth in a long, loud sigh, and let yourself yawn. Repeat. One, two, three times until your body feels relaxed.

Trust is just on the other side.

Stephanie